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How Some Music (and other stuff) Continues to Destroy our Young Lives

While riding with my high school track team to our conference track championships, I was hit with a dose of reality I hadn’t been exposed to in a while; music on the public air ways. The songs I heard on the radio during the drive over to the stadium are a very clear example of how we are destroying the minds (and futures) of our young people today. I should know…it did the same thing to me when I was young.

Stripper poles, make that money, sex, your body, don’t care if you doing it somewhere else as long as you bring it home to me shawty…this is some of the stuff I made out, considering many words were bleeped out, and many other words I think I blocked out (to prevent visual imagery).  I now sound like the elders of my day who I just wrote off as being old and out of touch.
However, I now know though, through research, study, and experience; what the entertainment and consumer industry has known for years.

They know that youth can’t think for themselves.

They know that the brain doesn’t fully develop its rationale thinking capacity until early to mid 20’s.

They know that youth are predominantly lead by the emotional and impulsive parts of their brains.

They know that this is the best time to get them hooked on their stuff; when they are young and don’t know any better. 

They know they need to package it in a way that’s cool and trendy and makes them feel more than it makes them think.

They know that if one does it, most will do it as well.

They know that the brain does not differentiate between songs, movies, tv, books, video etc…and real life. That it is all real life to the brain.

They also know that parents are too busy to notice, too tired to care, and therefore too preoccupied do anything about it.

They know that the earlier they can expose youth to their agenda, the more likely they will be loyal customers for life.

They know they will buy their music, attend their shows, wear their clothes, sing their songs, play their games, read their books, watch their movies.

They know if they can capture the heart now while their young; the brain won’t stand a chance when their older.

They really know that if they can get us hooked to it when we are young, we will justify it’s value when we are older; thus passing it on to our children, or allowing our children to do it because we did it. Thus completing the cycle.

What they don’t know is that I know, and many others are beginning to know and are committed to finding away to break this cycle.

I am convinced that many music artist, actors, writers, singers, and rappers today (and days past) are paid mental and emotional assassins. They get paid to kill our youth (and us) mentally and emotionally, while making us feel good and having us bounce to it. They get paid to have us feeling the need to be sexually active as early as possible to express our love and real commitment to our man or our girl as early as middle schooler (and even earlier). Middle schoolers! Did you catch that…just let that sink in for a second…

Kids who can’t commit to taking a shower or cleaning their room or doing their homework are committing to sexual relationship because they love their boy friend or girl friend (or at least that’s what the songs and shows are telling them it is…love). They are selling us into societal slavery and bondage for a quick buck and short lived status.

So to all the rappers, singers, musicians, writers, producers, etc… who are “expressing themselves” by putting out music, movies, books, and TV shows about money, sex, -hores, poles, guns, clothes, strip clubs, fame, killing, –tches, smoking, and the like…thank you for your contributions to our broken and fallen society (not really…insert sarcasm here).

Sincerely,
A coach, a minister, a teacher, a father, a dad, a son, and a concerned citizen

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How Some Music (and other stuff) Continues to Destroy our Young Lives

While riding with my high school track team to our conference track championships, I was hit with a dose of reality I hadn’t been exposed to in a while; music on the public air ways. The songs I heard on the radio during the drive over to the stadium are a very clear example of how we are destroying the minds (and futures) of our young people today. I should know…it did the same thing to me when I was young. Strip polls, make that money, sex, your body, don’t care if you doing it somewhere else as long as you bring it home to me shawty…this is some of the stuff I made out, considering many words were bleeped out, and many other words I think I blocked out (to prevent visual imagery).  I now sound like the elders of my day who I just wrote off as being old and out of touch.
However, I now know though, through research, study, and experience; what the entertainment and consumer industry has known for years.

They know that youth can’t think for themselves.

They know that the brain doesn’t fully develop its rationale thinking capacity until early to mid 20’s.

They know that youth are predominantly lead by the emotional and impulsive parts of their brains.

They know that this is the best time to get them hooked on their stuff; when they are young and don’t know any better. 

They know they need to package it in a way that’s cool and trendy and makes them feel more than it makes them think.

They know that if one does it, most will do it as well.

They know that the brain does not differentiate between songs, movies, tv, books, video etc…and real life. That it is all real life to the brain.

They also know that parents are too busy to notice, too tired to care, and therefore too preoccupied do anything about it.

They know that the earlier they can expose youth to their agenda, the more likely they will be loyal customers for life.

They know they will buy their music, attend their shows, wear their clothes, sing their songs, play their games, read their books, watch their movies.

They know if they can capture the heart now while their young; the brain won’t stand a chance when their older.

They really know that if they can get us hooked to it when we are young, we will justify it’s value when we are older; thus passing it on to our children, or allowing our children to do it because we did it. Thus completing the cycle.

What they don’t know is that I know, and many others are beginning to know and are committed to finding away to break this cycle.

I am convinced that many music artist, actors, writers, singers, and rappers today (and days past) are paid mental and emotional assassins. They get paid to kill our youth (and us) mentally and emotionally, while making us feel good and having us bounce to it. They get paid to have us feeling the need to be sexually active as early as possible to express our love and real commitment to our man or our girl as early as middle schooler (and even earlier). Middle schoolers! Did you catch that…just let that sink in for a second…

Kids who can’t commit to taking a shower or cleaning their room or doing their homework are committing to sexual relationship because they love their boy friend or girl friend (or at least that’s what the songs and shows are telling them it is…love). They are selling us into societal slavery and bondage for a quick buck and short lived status.

So to all the rappers, singers, musicians, writers, producers, etc… who are “expressing themselves” by putting out music, movies, books, and TV shows about money, sex, -hores, poles, guns, clothes, strip clubs, fame, killing, –tches, smoking, and the like…thank you for your contributions to our broken and fallen society (not really…insert sarcasm here).

Sincerely,
A coach, a minister, a teacher, a father, a dad, a son, and a concerned citizen

The Spiritual Danger of Having Power

Reading recently about the Mark Driscoll situation at Mars Hill Church as well as seeing the ongoing falling and failings of other spiritual leaders, I thought it time to become a part of the conversation.

Let me first start with stating I don’t condone ungodly or hurtful behavior from anyone toward anyone. With that being said, I don’t think it is time to move from mere condemning of the problems to seeking solutions. For the past decade I wrestled with the question of why so many in spiritual positions of authority and leadership were falling to reprehensible behavior in their lives. I often heard that they were human, just like you and I. Although true, I also knew that even humans (of faith) like you and I are called not to live this way. In addition when becoming a spiritual leader myself, I took to heart the truth that those who lead would be judged more strictly.

I discovered something else while becoming a spiritual leader that lead me to my doctoral research on how one’s status can influence their behavior. I my time as a leader in ministry, sports, education, and business, I have noticed three things: 1) Many leaders do not live and behave in the way they expect their followers to live. 2) People can drastically change when they became leaders. 3) Followers can be guilty of treated leaders differently than their fellow followers.

1. People in Power Behave Differently

When leaders get a hold of too much power and status, their behaviors begin to change. Research shows that the more power people get the more their behavior differs from those without power. Power is said to set off behavioral systems in people which moves them to pursue their desires and wants more than others with little fear of consequences. When power is high, people are more driven by what they can get rather than the consequences of their pursuits. I’ve seen leaders who made unwise decision even when warned by others.  I’ve seen leaders who put themselves in situations that most would not, simply because they thought that could handle it. Lastly, I’ve seen leaders who justify their actions and are blinded to their implications of their actions on others. Power can change the way a leader sees the world.

2. People  Can Change When They Get Power

Power and status seems to be the drug of choice in most churches, and business organizations. I have often experienced good people become elevated to roles of authority and suddenly become totally different people. Having others look up to you and admire you can be an intoxicating feeling and experience. It can and has changed people’s leadership to where they start leading for the feeling of being admired instead of the need for making hard choices and doing the right thing. Because of the addicting influence of being elevated in the hearts of others, many spiritual leaders (and leaders in general) have unknowingly become slaves to appeasing their followers in exchange of their approval and support. This is a dangerous trap that most spiritual leaders can’t seem to find their way out of.

3) Followers Can Worship Their Leaders

Many followers are not aware that they can actually fall into idol worship of those in spiritual positions of power.  Research again shows that the more we admire a person, the more we are to champion their behavior and ideas, and the more  likely we are to defend and justify their actions and behaviors. This is a dangerous recipe for wrong worship. Followers can be just as much the reason leaders fall as leaders the reason followers are manipulated or deceived.

I am convinced that many of the ungodly behaviors that happen among the spiritual leaders of our congregations are greatly influenced by the status and power they have. What many of us fail to realize is that only God can handle worship from man; man cannot. To prevent and avoid the damaging behavior among leaders we must become aware of the power of worship and it’s impact on our behavior. There is a real danger in having too much power; it can create an atmosphere that makes moral failings among those who lead and follow an inevitably sad reality among most churches.

In my latest book on Worship (spoiler alert: it’s not about music, it’s actually about worship), I bring a much-needed awareness to how easy it can be for us to worship any and everything except God. I am giving my book away free this weekend as a part of my writing on this issue today.

None of the Above

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None of the Above: The Power & Pitfalls of Worship http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00F1QVI2C/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_awdm_G6ffub1TWCMPC